"Pussycat Dolls Feminism" is such a great term for this! I've got a vendetta against it, which is partly personal...I moved from a culture where there was at least a 'tomboy' template to one where genuinely enjoying exercise for its own sake is deeply suspect. Forget keeping your hair short and make-up minimal on top of this...there's probably a re-education camp somewhere in Surrey for my kind. Sigh.
But on a larger scale, it impoverishes a culture's grasp of eroticism and sensuality. It's like, women who fancy guys have a pretty good range of lust objects...there's the male Pussycat equivilents (whoever took over after Brad Pitt and George Clooney started taking actual acting roles), but you can also quite acceptably lust over JEH, Ron Perlman, Tom Waits, any 'quirky' male figure and consider it normal sexual focus. It's not even considered too outre in most circles to admit to girl-crushing, either - hell, guys do that, and they're the default, so it's gotta be fine for women to imitate it :D
Whereas straight men are conditioned that finding any women outside this very narrow (and mostly unobtainable) look isn't normal sexual attraction but fetishism. It's something a bit weird that needs a market-demographic name to make them feel like they're at least part of a group of like-minded weirdos. Which is really pitiable! Like, the husband has had quite an education in the pervy female mind since we started dating. He knows I write slash, and the gist of the plots, and why I find what I do unbearably hot...which, from mainstream society's perspective, is all pretty damn weird stuff, right? And yet he'll only be partly joking when he asks, 'Is it too weird that I find her really, like really, hot?' - in regard to, for instance, the solid, strong, determined wife in A Serious Man.
My point of this ramble being, it's bad for women, and it ties men up in knots just as much, and it's all frakking pointless except to advertisers. Humph.
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Re: caution: tealdeer crossing
Date: 2010-02-06 07:13 pm (UTC)"Pussycat Dolls Feminism" is such a great term for this! I've got a vendetta against it, which is partly personal...I moved from a culture where there was at least a 'tomboy' template to one where genuinely enjoying exercise for its own sake is deeply suspect. Forget keeping your hair short and make-up minimal on top of this...there's probably a re-education camp somewhere in Surrey for my kind. Sigh.
But on a larger scale, it impoverishes a culture's grasp of eroticism and sensuality. It's like, women who fancy guys have a pretty good range of lust objects...there's the male Pussycat equivilents (whoever took over after Brad Pitt and George Clooney started taking actual acting roles), but you can also quite acceptably lust over JEH, Ron Perlman, Tom Waits, any 'quirky' male figure and consider it normal sexual focus. It's not even considered too outre in most circles to admit to girl-crushing, either - hell, guys do that, and they're the default, so it's gotta be fine for women to imitate it :D
Whereas straight men are conditioned that finding any women outside this very narrow (and mostly unobtainable) look isn't normal sexual attraction but fetishism. It's something a bit weird that needs a market-demographic name to make them feel like they're at least part of a group of like-minded weirdos. Which is really pitiable! Like, the husband has had quite an education in the pervy female mind since we started dating. He knows I write slash, and the gist of the plots, and why I find what I do unbearably hot...which, from mainstream society's perspective, is all pretty damn weird stuff, right? And yet he'll only be partly joking when he asks, 'Is it too weird that I find her really, like really, hot?' - in regard to, for instance, the solid, strong, determined wife in A Serious Man.
My point of this ramble being, it's bad for women, and it ties men up in knots just as much, and it's all frakking pointless except to advertisers. Humph.